A lot of women want to be able to release emotion by crying during or after a spanking. I was reading a blog earlier from a woman who desperately wanted to cry during a spanking but couldn't or wasn't able and this was causing her great amounts of distress and anxiety. It made me think back over my own experiences with tears and spankings.
Generally, I'm not a woman who does a lot of crying in general. Sure, I cry when happy at a wedding or sad at a funeral. I have cried when I felt really sad or even angry, but they tend to be short lived tears. Although 2012 seemed to see more than a lifetime of tears... saddness, anger, pain... from my eyes.
I've just never been a crier over a spanking though. That doesn't mean I don't feel the pain of a spanking or the remorse for whatever action earned the spanking. Boy, do I feel both. Jim is not what I could term a 'light spanker'. I just don't seem to cry over one. Over the years, there have been a few exceptions to this, but they are more rare than frequent.
What will get my eyes to tear up though, is the lecture beforehand. Simple phrases like, "I'm so disappointed in you," or "You know better and by doing this, you've really let me down," or even worse, "You didn't give any thought to what our children and I would do without you...how would they cope without their mother...how would I cope without my wife if something had happened to you?" Talk about emotional statements! Couple that with the embarrassment of having to discuss in length what happened, how it could have happened differently, how I can improve it the next time... and my tears will fall.
What really hits my emotional buttons about a pre-spanking lecture is the knowledge in my mind and heart that the man I love and respect more than anyone on earth, is upset, angry, frustrated or disappointed with me or something I've done. And the disappointment in myself that I've made a mistake or a bad decision and now I'm facing a very sore bottom. That's just me, although I expect a lot of other DD women feel the same way as well.
I know some men and women, who both believe that crying is a fundamental part of a spanking experience. It's a release, an expression of remorse. I feel all that before his hand lands on my bottom the first time.
Thankfully, Jim seems to know when a spanking has met its purpose and doesn't try to spank harder or longer, just to make me cry tears.
It works for me.